To an outsider the behavior of an addict is completely irrational. Alcohol or drugs is obviously destroying their life yet they continue to engage in this activity. Even when the substance abuse is pulling the individual towards an early grave, or causing problems for loved ones, they persist with it. Those who have never been dependent on an addictive substance will see this behavior as highly irrational. They do not have the addict’s ability to rationalize the irrational in order to explain away their own self destruction. This individual is not willfully doing something to cause harm to themselves or other people. As far as they are concerned what they are doing is right. This is why directly challenging the substance abuse will often be ineffective because it just puts the addict on the defensive.
This article is not about information technology or how the internet or world wide web works. Well some of it may be but this article brings to light the "Dark Web". A place on the internet where you go to find and BUY things in secret. (Example: Illegal drugs, guns, child pornography, etc.). The real purpose of this article is to educate the families of the addicted. The street corner drug dealer is not the only place to purchase illegal drugs. All you need is a computer and the know how to get to the darkside of the web.
Only relatively recently have we begun to see addiction as a disease of the brain, chronic and progressive and deadly. Some years ago, the consensus was that addicts were merely selfish, weak of will and character, substance abusers due to being bad people. As such, individuals who suffered from the disease of addiction were also frequently put in jail instead of rehab. With substance abuse being a widely criminalized behavior, individuals were not only breaking many laws by being addicted, but their addictions often led them to criminal behavior in order to sustain their addictions.
Addiction hurts families and for as many as 60 percent of families it also brings violence. When an addict turns against his family with physical violence and verbal accusations, it brings suffering that lasts generations. Plus, violence indicates an addict suffers from a more severe addiction and mental health problems that need immediate treatment to ensure everyone’s safety.
A Hopeless Ultimatum: ‘It’s Me or the Drugs’.
When you love an addict, you spend a lot of time and energy hoping he or she will change. You probably put up with a lot of unacceptable behavior. The addict may steal from you, lie to you and make promises that he doesn’t keep. He or she may disappear for days on end and neglect you or other family members, including children. The person you fell in love with doesn’t seem to be there anymore.